Providing treatment for individuals and couples gives me the opportunity to see several different perspectives when it comes to marriage and relationships. I am always amazed at the life challenges my clients have overcome whether on their own or with their partner. When clients come to see me, I am often asked if what they are going though is "normal" or if "it makes sense". Ultimately, that answer can only be determined by them. I am not a fan of the word "normal" and strive not to use it regularly. However, if something is causing a disruption in your usual routine and you are struggling to have a healthy balance, then it may be time to reevaluate your needs and wants. Please keep in mind these are different for everyone. They are not meant to align with everyone's "normal". In fact you don't want them to because then they would not be uniquely yours. Most importantly of all, don't lose sight of the things that are in fact important to you. It is those very things that will help you achieve a healthy balance in times of confusion me uncertainty.